Loss and grief is a normal aspect of pregnancy yet it is not often talked about. Holding a sense of loss and grief alongside the joy and anticipation of becoming a parent can feel confusing. Often expecting mums and dads feel shocked, guilty and ashamed by their feelings of grief and loss. So they often push their feelings deep down inside.
Try to remember that it is common for expecting parents to feel the loss of a part of their sense of who they are, activities they enjoyed or their relationship with their partner. It can take some time to adjust to what they might have lost. It can also take some time to really appreciate the new things they have gained. Some expecting parents feel ashamed by this unexpected grief and if the feelings are not addressed it can impact their mental health and wellbeing.
'From the moment I realised I was pregnant, I was overcome with feelings of loss and grief. I was no longer an autonomous individual.'